Feng Shui places great importance to keep the centre of your home clean, because that is where all the other energies of your home stem from. If that is the case then isn’t it important to maintain harmony in our family because that is where our existence is centred? Is it so difficult to achieve harmony within the family? For that to materialise, the members of a family should look beyond the self at the larger picture. They should trust, support and love one another at all times. This does not mean that there will be no arguments between them. After all, we are all human beings and none of us are perfect. But we need to keep in mind that family relationships are emotional and care should be taken to make it last forever.
When there is love and trust between the family members, stress is automatically thrown out. These two are perhaps the most essential and yet the most lacking ingredients today leading to conflict, depression and ultimately separation between spouses. Differences should exist and should be celebrated. After all, aren’t we all unique individuals? Some simple stress management rules that can be kept in mind and followed consciously:
- Plan in advance. Anticipate problems before they come up.
- Make lists to remember important things.
- Share your workload.
- Keep up an active communication system with your family. Share a meal and discuss events of the day.
- If you are giving in your best, don’t let that guilt feeling override you.
- Listen first and if you do not agree, put forth your points constructively.
- Sometimes, in tense situations, be quiet rather than talk and mess up.
- Remember important dates and try to make the concerned family member feel special on their ‘special day’.
- Never try to impose your ideas or change any member of your family. Each member has a unique personality; don’t try to alter it.
- Forgive and forget—we all have difficult days when we blow our top for no reason. Never hold grudges. Forget and move on.
- Be supportive and stay united, no matter what. Remember, ‘Tough times never last, but tough people do’.
These are not all, and there are in fact no definite mantras for success. At the end of the day, what matters more is peace of mind and peace in the family. If that is achieved, then no rules need to be adhered to.